I’m not a big marriage nerd. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got female friends that are, and these friends tell me wistfully about how they spent their childhood planning their dream wedding: the church, the white dress, the doves at released just the right moment, the first dance, the tasteful kiss at the altar (five seconds, tongue tip only) the cake the cake the cake.Actually, I have planned my cake. It’s the traditional fruit, heavy on the brandy – ideally, you should...